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January 15, 2019

Bring Me The Magic

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 12:50 am

MagicLet’s just admit it aloud: We’re all looking for a piece of magic.

We want our magical thinking to work. That means we want our thinking to get us what we want.

I believe I’ve found what we all want. I sense that it’s peace of mind.

To free ourselves from the thinking machine for just a spell brings us the magic that works so well: Peace of mind.

When we have peace of mind, we are magically transported from the past and future to the present – the entry point for peace of mind.

You don’t have to slave to get peace of mind, you just have to notice your mind at work. When you stop to notice that your mind has a mind of its own, you create a quiet space of peace.

You can’t say “abracadabra” to get there. That would be like trying to pull a rabbit out of a hat. What you can do is notice the sleight of hand your mind is distracting you with. Notice your mind thinking on its own tempting you to join in.

If you, instead, just watch your mind at work, you will discover the soft piece of magic that gets you to peace of mind. There is the thinker and the observer. When you choose to think, you won’t sleep a wink. When you observe, you open a doorway to that quiet reserve: Peace of mind.

The offshoots of peace of mind are bursts of creativity – pieces of magic that were hidden from view, simply because you participated in all the ado.

I’m running out of rhymes so let me leave you with this: If you want peace of mind, start observing and leave magical thinking behind.

All the best,

John



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January 11, 2019

Expectation vs. Entitlement

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 9:58 am

Pregant 001FLASHBACK FRIDAY!

It occurred to me recently that expectation and entitlement are intertwined but with a huge difference.

Entitlement contains expectation but expectation doesn’t necessarily contain entitlement.

An entitled person expects a certain level of whatever they think they’re entitled to without having to do anything to get it.

A person expecting something is expecting something in return for an action they’ve taken.

Expectation has some quid pro quo (something for something) attached to it whereas entitlement epitomizes something for nothing.

“I expect respect” is something both an expectant and entitled person may utter but one has done something to earn it; the other is looking for a handout.

How do you tell if you’re entitled? It’s pretty simple. If you expect something for “just being you,” the only thing you’re entitled to, and will receive, is a long wait.

A person with a realistic expectation has done something besides “being them” that’s worth consideration.

Ask any therapist how many times they’ve heard the sibling story – “My mother loved my brother/sister more.” When the therapist digs a bit deeper, they often find their aggrieved client owns the title of entitlement in their family.

Here’s the hard reality: We’re entitled to nothing. The push-pull universe doesn’t respond to entitlement because it’s not a real thing. It’s something we made up.

The sooner we make up our mind to leave entitlement in our past, the sooner we can expect to see some return on our actions.

All the best,

John



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January 9, 2019

The Purpose of Habits

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 3:42 pm

SmokerThe Grasshopper, as is his habit, opined out of the blue, “Habits have no agenda.”

Even if you’re a habitual liar, your habit of lying itself isn’t necessarily doing so to support your current agenda. It’s just a purposeful behavior that you’ve learned but haven’t outgrown.

All habits are purposeful. We learned them for a purpose – to get us over a hump so to speak. Perhaps lying kept you from being punished. It served a purpose. You may have outgrown the fear of being punished for your actions, but that doesn’t keep you from continuing to lie. Lying is now a habit. Perhaps now you have a finer appreciation for the phrase “habitual liar.”

That’s how habits are formed: for a purpose.

Take smoking as an example. What was the purpose for starting to smoke? It certainly wasn’t because they tasted good. Remember choking on your first inhale?

Perhaps you wanted to be older, more sophisticated, like your older brother or sister, tougher, cooler – pick a purpose. That’s why you started. Now you’re older and wiser and know that smoking is nasty and harmful but you continue to smoke. That habit was formed for a purpose and purposes are powerful – powerful enough to keep you acting against your best interests.

Patterns in your mind are frozen in time. They are only as old as when you first learned them. That means when you smoke a cigarette 30 years later, the purposeful part of you continues to communicate that you’re still “cool.”

So how do you outgrow a habit? Notice that you have one is first and foremost. Second, recognize that the initial purpose for learning the pattern is long gone. And finally, interrupt the pattern every time you notice it running.

Each interruption creates a space in your thinking – a space for something new to come through – a new habit. it’s not an overnight fix but it does work, over time, when consistently applied.

Interrupting a habit gets the habit off track. Consistent application will derail it for good. Once you outgrow a habit, it will never fit again.

Make outgrowing unwanted habits your new purpose.

All the best,

John



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January 8, 2019

I Matter

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 11:47 am

Michael sum 565770 unsplashSeems to me that “eye matter” gets in the way of “I matter.”

The occluding substance is the outside world filter we apply to who we should be. And when we judge ourselves by those standards, we come up with “I don’t matter.”

You can’t be defined by outside circumstances because the inside you – the part that matters – is never touched by them.

Outside evaluations can set some benchmarks to shoot for when we want to improve our station in life, but they can never measure our capacity to matter.

The old axiom comes to mind: “It’s not the dog in the fight; it’s the fight in the dog.”

I’m not suggesting that you have to fight for what matters. You don’t. It’s there for you without lifting a glove.

Just knowing that you matter will deliver personal respect without having to demand it.

Any time you feel as though you don’t matter, wipe out your eyes and see through to the real you – the part of you that matters.

All the best,

John



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January 2, 2019

Actions vs. Labels

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 9:18 am

SlobHere’s a new habit we can all aspire to in the new year: Describe actions vs. assigning labels.

“He’s a bald-faced liar” is labeling. Labels turn conversations into conflagrations.

Better to factually state what someone lied about. That’s describing their actions, not them.

I will admit that labels have more initial oomph and cut through quickly, but they also kill the opportunity to have a productive discussion.

“He’s a fat, lazy slob” is guaranteed to go nowhere. It may make you feel better, but it won’t advance anything close to a remedy. “He’s 40 pounds overweight, doesn’t exercise, and doesn’t comb his hair.” That’s factual and more actionable.

It’s more useful to mentally write a report about someone rather than label them. The report has actionable facts; the label has emotional fireworks.

Develop the habit of describing actions without adjectives and people will stop labeling you judgmental.

All the best,

John



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January 1, 2019

A Solution to Resolutions

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 5:29 pm

2019

This year I thought I’d take a different tack and list what I’m not going to do in the new year.

  • I won’t ask a question I’m not invested in.
  • I’m not learning Spanish or any other language. I’m pretty sure I would have done that by now.
  • I won’t buy a piece of photography equipment I’ll never use. (There’s a good chance I’ll break this one).
  • I won’t go camping.
  • There’s no chance that I’ll take dancing lessons.
  • I won’t attempt to change anyone’s mind on Facebook to my political preferences.
  • I won’t try Paintball.
  • I won’t eat a beet.
  • I won’t say, “Never say never.”
  • And finally, I won’t list all the things that I’ll resolve to do and never accomplish.

To say, “I am not yet a fan of New Year’s resolutions” would be a severe understatement.

Here’s my New Year’s wish for you. I hope all your aims aren’t missed. And if they are, no one has to know about it if you don’t blather on about what you’re going to do.

Better to list at the end of the year what you have accomplished. That’s a resolution that you can surely keep.

All the best & Happy New Year!

John



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December 27, 2018

Most Important Day

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:43 am

TodayI was watching a movie last night and the question was asked, “What is the most important day of your life?” It got me musing.

Seems everyone would have a different answer to this question but I believe there is really only one: TODAY!

Today not only delivers what no other day has, but it also sets your tomorrow.

This is not a bumper sticker to “Seize the Day.” That’s just manufactured energy. This is more about noticing the importance of today.

Today isn’t yesterday, nor is it tomorrow. It is its own special day.

I wonder how you will spend your today. Will you attempt to relive yesterday or mentally project yourself into tomorrow? Both of those strategies will have you miss the importance of today.

Today is as important as any day in history, and during this day you will make your own history. Will it be a memorable chapter in your life or will it be not worth remembering?

This is a reminder to us all: Make today important!

All the best,

John



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December 24, 2018

New World Order

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:19 am

Christmas Tree in snowIs Christmas just another day? Is any day just another day? The Grasshopper answered those questions cryptically when he chirped, “It’s a new world every day.”

Everyday when you wake up, you wake up to a new world. The world itself hasn’t changed but the stories that happen within its sphere have.

Everyday is a new chapter – some happy, some sad, but most often the changes go unnoticed. Our sensory acuity doesn’t get calibrated often enough to see the change, so we perceive everything is the way it was when we went to bed.

Due to conditioning, we don’t adapt to change very well. We rail at reality when it doesn’t bend in our direction. Quoting my friend Craig’s motto, “Be flexible or get bent out of shape.”

No one knows what a new day brings but bet on this: It will bring something new.

Here’s hoping that Santa brings you something newer than Christmas snow: The ability to go with the flow. It’s truly the gift that keeps on giving.

Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays,

John



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December 20, 2018

Holiday Wonderment

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 6:53 am

Longlist

Since Christmas is a time of wonderment and lists, here’s a list of 10 things I’m wondering about:

1. Does Bill Gates buy lottery tickets?

2. Does cold air take away odors quicker than hot air?

3. Where is that other sock I put in the dryer?

4. Do people who put pictures of their food on Facebook, weigh more than the rest of the population?

5. Where is Waldo?

6. Does Santa have a second home in Florida?

7. Would a Greek/Italian tailor ask a customer this, “Euripides”?

8. Who really let the dogs out?

9. Is Ivory soap 99 44⁄100% Pure?

10. Why didn’t they shoot JR sooner?

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to my fellow wonderers!

John



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December 18, 2018

Ready, Set, GO!

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 8:59 am

RSG“It’s not what you know; it’s what you act on.” So said the Grasshopper at the crack of dawn.

It sounds a bit like, “actions speak louder than words” to me, but I think it goes deeper.

“Words” reflect what you’ve done or what you’re going to do. “Actions” relate to what you are doing now. There is no action in the past or future. Action only happens now.

Some folks think because they have the knowledge to act on something, that it’s the same thing as acting. “I already know that” is a commonly used phrase of the non-doer.

You may ask, “If you already know that, how come it hasn’t happened?” And then brace yourself for the non-stop litany of excuses for not acting. I keep hearing my 4th grade teacher Miss Wagner’s pronouncement when hearing actionless justifications: “You can either have what you want or your reasons why not.”

The “why not’s” are the reasons you don’t take action. Excuses are perpetual diversions from doing.

If you know what you need to do, start subtracting your excuses one-by-one until you’re down to the bare metal of action.

We are all well lubricated excuse machines. The action needed is to drain the oil and have the excuses burn up. It’s then and only then that what you know turns into action that gets you past “Ready, Set” and on to “GO.”

All the best,

John



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