It took me the longest time to learn that choice is everyone’s birthright.
Everyone gets to choose. (Side Note: Not choosing is a choice).
Choices imply consequences. That’s why we make choices for our children before we let them make them on their own. We are schooling them in the universal law of Quid Pro Quo. Or, as Newton said, “To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction.”
But some get addicted to making choices for those close to them and forget to let go of the reins. I count myself amongst the “some.”
That’s why it’s such a blow when our dearest ones choose on their own.
We get so used to being the chooser that we forget that it’s their choice to choose too.
Head of households are so used to making so many choices that it seems like the role of chooser only belongs to them. What a rude awakening they are in for when others in their circle make their own choices.
When others exercise their right to choose, we feel assaulted on two fronts:
- We are miffed that they’ve taken over our role.
- We are even more miffed and mystified that they chose something other than our choice.
P.S. Isn’t “Miffed” a great word?
Choice does leave a trail of tears for those not chosen, but the eyes may dry quicker if we are grounded in the inalienable right of choice.
We feel reality’s bite when we fight the right.
The biggest game of contradiction we play is denying that others have the right to choose. And we lose every time we ignore the rules.
We may be hurt by others’ choices but railing against their right to choose keeps us in the circle of victimhood – a choice that revolves for a lifetime.
The way to get off that Merry-Go-Round is by making a choice.
Choose to recognize another’s right to choose.
All the best,
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