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March 30, 2015

The Energy of Now

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 6:47 am

C562136 mHave you ever asked yourself, “What am I doing with my life?” The Grasshopper offered this answer to the question: “Whatever you’re doing now is what you’re doing with your life.

The real question is: What are you doing with the energy of your life?
Your energy is only present right now. It’s not in the past or in the future; it’s only here now. So whatever you’re doing with your energy right now is what you’re doing with your life.

Are you fretting now? Then that’s what you’re doing with your life. Are you working towards a goal right now? Then that’s what you’re doing with your life.

The question can be accurately answered in each moment by noticing what you’re doing in that moment.

“I’m not spending enough time with my kids or on my job or hobby or with my spouse or lover” are declarations about not living the life you want. Rather than listing what you’re not doing with your life, start now by doing any of those things; then you’ll be able to confidently declare: “I’m doing what I want with my life.”

Life only happens now. Please read that sentence again. Whatever you are doing now is what you’re doing with your life.

Start using the energy of now to do what you want rather than wasting your energy citing what you don’t want. You already know what you don’t want. Reminding yourself over and over is as silly as saying your name repeatedly to yourself so you won’t forget it.

The energy of now can be used in any fashion you choose. Channel your life’s energy towards doing what you want to do and do it now!

You don’t have to climb a mountain in a day. Use the energy of now to step in the direction of the climb. Then you can answer the age old question with “I’m stepping in the direction of doing what I want now.”

You have to step out of your head to take the first step. So stop philosophizing about the why and wherefore of what isn’t happening and start noticing what is. Then you’ll have a handle on what you’re doing with your life and if it needs adjustment, use the energy of now to take the first step in that direction.

Life only happens now. So here’s a new question: What are you doing with the energy of now?

All the best,

John



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March 25, 2015

Irrelevant Past

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 6:45 am

C887532 mThe Grasshopper offered an early springtime blossom this morning: “It’s irrelevant how you felt then; it’s only relevant how you feel now.”

“I felt so betrayed.”

“I felt so helpless.”

“I felt so angry.”

Notice how all those phrases are in the past tense and notice how they drag you into the past.

Some therapists make their living by inviting these phrases. Is it any wonder that people who remain in therapy for years don’t show any appreciable forward movement.

The past tense keeps you in the past.

Notice your past tense language and you’ll get a handle on how you keep yourself there.

For many, the past is kept alive even though it’s dead and buried. Digging up the corpse again isn’t going to breathe life into your life. It has never worked and never will work but that doesn’t keep us from a steady diet of repasting on the past. Here’s the rub: Even the memory of a wonderful dinner won’t sate your appetite now.

What are your feelings now?

If you examine your situation closely, you’re not “betrayed,” “helpless” or “angry” now; you only get those feelings when you entertain how you felt then. I call that “feeling bad on purpose.”

What’s the purpose? It’s certainly not going to project you forward.

I request that you start monitoring your language and see how much of it is in the past tense. The more you start to focus on now, the more you begin to move on.

What’s going on now is your life; what was going on then may be the death of you if you keep it alive. The key to feeling less tense is to change your past tense.

All the best,

John



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March 20, 2015

The Demon of Denial

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 4:48 am

C695710 mI think everyone can admit to having a demon or two but my sense is that none is more limiting than the Demon of Denial.

We all deny and I’m sure I’m not the first to recognize that “deny” does more than rhyme with “lie”; they’re interchangable.

So what’s the big lie that we deny? It’s that we had anything to do with our current lot in life.

As long as we deny that we’re not part of the problem, the solution lies out there somewhere.

I’m reminded of the Byron Katie quote from her book Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life: “As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.”

The problem and the solution are not anywhere but where you are now. You’ll avoid the solution as long as you contend that what’s going on with you has nothing to do with what you’ve done. That’s the Demon of Denial in full costume.

Notice how quickly we accept responsibility for something that came out smelling like a rose but are quick to abdicate our part in a situation that smells like an elephant fart.

The elephant in the room is the Demon of Denial.

Talk with any AA counselor and you’ll find their hardest job is to get an alcohol abuser past the denial that alcohol is interfering with the quality of their life. The same is true with abusers of all sorts. If you abuse your body with any sort of overconsumption and deny you had anything to do with the results, your demon has taken you over and your situation remains as Katie says, “hopeless.”

The only hope you have to getting to a solution is to dissolve your denial.

That starts with the bold notion that we play a part in everything that goes on in our life. Have you ever been fired from a job? Notice that the last line you’ll utter is, “It was my fault.”

Did you play any part in your dismissal? Divorce? Disease? Or detriment of any sort? if you answered “no,” it will remain problematic and an unsolved mystery to you.

When we remove ourselves from cause and effect, the effect is denial – a demon that keeps us in place.

Pretend you are an actor who had a cameo role in a bad movie but repeatedly deny, to whomever will listen, that you were ever in it. The evidence is there for anyone to see except those still hanging on to denial.

When you admit that you’re part of the problem, the weight of the problem lessens and the search for a solution begins. You’ll never take the first step towards a solution until you get the devil to stop denying the details.

All the best,

John



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March 11, 2015

Grudge Match

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 4:52 am

GrudgeThe Grasshopper woke me up with this: “All your grudges die when you do.”

Wow! No more grudges! “But do I have to die for them to die?” was my question.

The answer is “yes” and “no.”

Yes, the energy has to leave our body to die but, no, we don’t have to physically die for the energy to leave a grudge.

Letting a grudge lose its energy will take more than a declaration on your part, but it’s a start. Recognizing that a grudge zaps more energy from you than does digesting Thanksgiving dinner is reason enough to craft a plan for its demise.

Recognizing that your grudge is hurting you more than whomever you’re holding it against is helpful in getting you started on the process. You gain extra credit if you notice that the grudge you’re holding is against someone who’s already dead. When that becomes “laugh out loud funny” to you, you know your grudge is at death’s door.

I don’t have a step-by-step method to offer but I do have one exercise that’s worth practicing. I call it a “Grudge Match.”

You can physically do this exercise or just do it in your imagination. It will have an effect either way.

Write down your grudge a small piece of paper or draw a picture or symbol that represents your grudge. Next, go to a nearby sink and set fire to to the paper and watch what was burning you up, burn up. If you’re afraid of setting the house on fire, do it in your imagination. Again, either way has an effect.

The flames represent the energy necessary to keep the grudge alive. As you watch them die out, your grudge begins to move to the great beyond.

You can be lectured from here to eternity about the sinfulness and ill effects of grudges but that hasn’t worked on you so far, so I offer one little match that has more burning power than Mrs. O’Leary’s Cow.

You’ll probably have to do this exercise more than once to get a lasting effect but the results are to die for.

All the best,

John



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March 10, 2015

Subtraction or Contraction?

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 1:15 am

Subtraction = expansionI have this notion that life is about addition and subtraction. The first portion of our life is a process of adding things we believe we need to succeed in life. The second portion is about subtracting the superfluous – the bright and shiny things we found we didn’t need.

“Things,” in this context, is a broad concept that includes ideas and beliefs.

What I find that many people are doing in the subtracting phase is contracting instead. That means they are withdrawing rather than expanding.

Many contract into their life-long prejudices rather than subtracting them. Others contract into their ethnicity, race, religion or ideologic view rather than pursue a more ecumenical world view.

When you contract, you withdraw from the world and create an exclusionary one of your own.

Contraction, based on my observances over the years, causes physical contraction in your body. It doesn’t surprise me that people who have been described as “tight” (rhymes with right) wind up with crippling arthritis or constriction of blood vessels causing circulation and heart problems – long before the rest of the population.

While arguing to be right, they continue to contract and add to their physical misery.

It’s not necessary for these people to have a wholesale change of opinion, just a bit of a subtraction process that demonstrates to them that their opinion doesn’t matter. By subtracting, they find out who they are without their opinions. This causes expansion.

There is an expansion within their bodies as well. I’ve seen it too many times to deny that expansion gets people healthier and, dare I say, happier.

“Don’t sweat the small stuff because it’s all small stuff” is a great mantra for those seeking expansion. Life will go on when your constricting opinions die with you. Look at anyone you deem to be “really old and healthy” and notice that they aren’t contracting. They’ve just subtracted what doesn’t really matter.

All the best,

John



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March 4, 2015

Global or Local?

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:55 am

C309825 mMost of us have been exposed to the notion of taking care of our little corner of the world as being our contribution to the globe. I wonder how it works in reverse.

What happens when you think globally? My sense is that doing so expands your options.

This is not a “Save the Planet” post, just a suggestion that considering the whole expands your little corner of the world.

What is the whole? I’m not quite sure but I know it contains all the tiny corners.

A circle has 360 degrees. Let’s pretend the circle represents the whole and each one of its 360 degrees represents a part. How often do we stand on the same degree mark and interpret the world from there? There are 359 other angles of approach but we stay stuck on one.

The more we move ourselves around the circle and view our world from different angles, the more global we get.

This global strategy can be experienced by putting into practice the title of an old song: Walk A Mile In My Shoes.”

It seems to me that “Hooray for our Side” is at epidemic proportions. That’s local and limiting. It doesn’t matter what the topic, the more you stay local, the more you stay in conflict, and we justify that stance by clamoring that we are right.

We remain in a constant state of conflict when we stay stuck in our own little world. Just shift your position a degree or two and find out for yourself that global options mean less war for you.

All the best,

John



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