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October 10, 2019

Let’s Argue

Filed under: Uncategorized — John Morgan @ 7:56 am

Cloudvisual co uk DCtwjzQ9uVE unsplashWant to start an argument? Use comparatives or superlatives!

“Better” or “Best” is a good place to start. “My idea is better.” “Inky Octopus has the best calamari in the city.”

Notice that comparatives and superlatives bring up instant counter-arguments.

Who’s the greatest quarterback of all time? “Of course, it’s Tom Brady.” Notice that if you live outside of New England, you may have a different player you want to make an argument for.

To avoid counterproductive arguments, use verifiable language. “Tom Brady has won 6 Super Bowls. No other quarterback in the history of the NFL has done that.”

Use softeners when using comparatives. “There may be a better way to go.”

It’s always productive and less argumentative to put the accent on the information rather than the opinion. This is especially apt when using the words “right” and “wrong.” If you have the right way, notice the only option you have given anyone with a different opinion is to be wrong. No one wants to be wrong.

Putting the accent on the information sounds like this: “According to the Office of Management and Budget, that information is not accurate.” Notice you didn’t say the person was wrong; you just stated the information was inaccurate. It’s much softer on the psyche and leads to a discussion rather than an argument.

I’ll admit there are people, when faced with irrefutable facts, will continue to argue. That’s why they invented the word “moron.” Move on from that person or you will witness never-ending moving of goalposts.

Some people like to argue. If that’s you, continue using comparatives and superlatives and right and wrong and you’ll find someone to spar with all day long.

All the best,

John



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October 7, 2019

Never Ending Beginnings

Filed under: Uncategorized — John Morgan @ 6:49 am

John torcasio GwSG508AYPQ unsplashThe Grasshopper popped in the other day with this phrase: “Never ending beginnings.”

I got curious about what he meant. The following is what I came away with. We begin each day with a clean slate – with an opportunity to start over – to go back to that famous piece of real estate: Square One.

We can be like the movie “Groundhog Day” and have each day repeat itself, or we can start anew.

Starting over is often looked upon as failure when, in fact, it’s the solid foundation for stepping-stones to something new.

When we fail at something, the conditioned tendency is to get caught up in the “what I should have done” drama, rather than focusing on what to do NOW!

Even if you’re not a football fan, you can appreciate this scenario: There are 20 seconds left in the game – 20 seconds left to win or lose it. The quarterback calls for a pass play in the huddle and tells the player who catches the pass to get out of bounds to stop the clock, giving the team ample field position and time to attempt a winning field goal. The player catches the pass but chooses to run forward instead of stepping out of bounds. He gets tackled and the clock continues to run. The quarterback in his frustration runs over to the player with the remaining 10 seconds and chews him out for not stepping out of bounds. The clock runs out and they lose.

What would have happened if the quarterback reset and ran another play? He would have another chance of winning instead of “whining out the clock.”

We get an opportunity to begin again every moment of every day. It reduces our chances for failure and gives us the wisdom to call another play.

All the best,

John



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