I ran into a young woman named Eve who worked in a T-shirt shop in a trendy vacation spot in Massachusetts.
Eve is from a foreign country and speaks English better than most Americans. She has talents well past the skills she’s being compensated for, but she’s failed to recognize them.
She’s not alone.
Eve runs what I called the “Scared Rabbit” pattern.
It’s difficult to put the pattern into words but I instantly recognize it, even when it’s slightly displayed.
“Scared Rabbit” runs from the slightest rustle. They head for a hiding place where they can’t be discovered.
They act like they are prey for just about every obstacle that stands in their way. “Run down the rabbit hole” is their conditioned reaction.
What are they running from?
An idea – a fearful idea.
They fear failure more than almost anything else.
The idea of success doesn’t outweigh the notion of failure for a scared rabbit.
They prepare for success but engineer what they fear most.
Just so we’re clear, the fear of failure is the fear of what other people will think.
We don’t seem to take the time to notice that we can’t even control the thoughts that pop into our own head, so how are we supposed to control the thoughts of others?
No matter how clear your crystal ball, you’ll never know what others think. You may know how they think, but you’ll never know what they’re thinking.
If rabbits think others will judge them on their inability to accomplish something, they don’t make the effort. They take their skills and run for the hills.
A rabbit requires nurturing. They need to find where they’ve already been successful in life, no matter how minor, and build on that feeling. It’s that feeling that’s going to propel them to push past any imagined or real criticism.
Imagine having the courage as a young woman to leave your own country on your own to go to another country and make it your new home. That action outweighed anything others may have thought of Eve.
Now she has to draw on that that success to take her next step towards the carrot patch.
You can never control what others will think, but you can neutralize that feeling in you by focusing on the successful things you already do.
Scared rabbits have poor memories. They fail to remember their successes. When they begin to stack them one upon another, they form a foundation on which to build another.
If you’ve been running scared because of what others may think, it’s time to take inventory of your successes. It’s this action that gets you past the wagging fingers of failure.
All the best,
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