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August 30, 2011

Sarcasm

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 6:55 am

Here’s today’s question: If sarcasm died, how many mourners would there be?

Sarcasm is defined in the dictionary as a “biting remark” which stems from the Greek word, “Sarkazein” which literally means “to tear flesh.”

Here is another question: What if you used sarcasm and no one got it? Reminds me of a story . . .

I grew up on the east coast of the U.S. where sarcasm is a staple of life. Perhaps it’s a way of protection in such a concentrated population area, but I’ll leave that question for the philosophers and anthropologists to sort out. When I was in my mid 20’s, I moved to the Midwest and it was there that I made this discovery: “These folks don’t get me.” What I said sailed right over their heads. It wasn’t an immediate discovery but after a time of getting blank stares and people looking away in avoidance, it became apparent that they either didn’t like or appreciate sarcasm.

What I learned was that sarcasm is hurtful to many people and not “funny” as I intended it to be.

I wish I could report that my Midwest experience was a lesson fully learned, but it wasn’t; it was more of an observation on my part rather than an overcoming.

What I have learned over time is that sarcasm is not a great tool for communication. It has its spot in the tool box, but should be used sparingly. Comedians may profit from it, but my sense is that it pays negligible dividends in our everyday lives.

I’m not going to march in a parade protesting sarcasm but I will offer you this challenge: Notice how often you use it but, more importantly, notice how often it doesn’t work. It may make you the center of attention, but is it the quality of attention you are looking for?

My personal discovery is this: The less often I use sarcasm, the more people I get through to.

If you’re looking to exact a pound of flesh, sarcasm will certainly work, but If your goal is to reach another human being, keep sarcasm out of reach.

 

All the best,

John

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