“I just can’t make a decision.” How often have you heard that, said that or thought that?
The difficulty is in the grammar. We have a noun called “decision” whose definition is “the result of deciding.”
“Decide” is the verb and it’s the answer to decision making.
How come we don’t decide? Fear.
There are so many things we fear about deciding that they are too numerous to list.
The secret that’s been hidden from the perpetually undecided is this: If you don’t decide, the decision will be made for you.
You completely take yourself out of the decision making process when you choose not to decide. You leave your future in the hands of chance when you choose not to decide.
It’s like going in to Baskin-Robbins and allowing the ice cream server to pick for you. “Here’s your Chunky Peanut Butter Bubblegum Oreo Watermelon Surprise.”
As we approach election time, we hear about the “Undecideds.” A number of undecideds wind up not voting. The decision is made for them.
Admittedly, some decisions carry more consequences than others and can benefit by allowing time for reflection. Too much time in front of the mirror can make your future resemble “Alice in Wonderland’s.”
Start small and work your way up. Decide on something small today and put your energy behind that decision. Just notice how confusion dissipates when you decide. As you get more adept at deciding, step up to the next risk level and decide again.
The only question you have to ask yourself is this: Do I want my life decided by somebody else?
All the best,
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