We can often see flaws in others that we miss in ourselves, but the opposite is equally true – I don’t see the good in me that I see in you.

 

We’ve been conditioned to spot flaws, but not equally trained to see the upside, especially in ourselves.

 

We rebel against what people tell us is negative about ourselves which causes us to counter with what’s wrong with them. That discussion is now a dig-in-your-heels, defensive debate rather than a foundation for change.

 

Here’s the conundrum: You won’t fully discover your upside until you acknowledge your downside.

 

The process towards recognizing and realizing our upside begins by noticing and accepting our flaws.

 

The coveted upside you see in others also belongs to you, but you’ll rarely see it if you can’t accept the downside in vous.

 

It seems counter-intuitive until you try it, but accepting yourself, warts and all, is the portal through, which you’ll see a much better you.

 

Accepting the downside is the upside. It’s freeing to recognize and acknowledge that we are flawed. We’ve been hiding that side from our view for way too long.

 

Accepting our flaws is NOT issuing the “that’s just the way I am” defense. That’s just more denial. It’s more of an acknowledgement about the current reality of you. It’s not an invitation to wear sackcloth but a springboard to see you in a brand new suit of clothes.

 

The good I see in you is also in me but I’ll never find it by pretending my flaws are out to sea.

 

All the best,

John